The weather today was almost indicative of how I felt all day. Hot, brooding, oppressive; there was a certain balmy crush to the heat that permeated everything. It complemented well the…mood I felt earlier. Which, if you read the previous post, was hot blooded, brooding, and well, oppressive. Or at least, had many of those characteristics to it all. Fortunately, night is…attempting to cool off the day, and will settle to somewhere between uncomfortable and adequate.
Today was also, again, a day when I get reminded about a whole mess of things, mostly regarding actions and words. Namely, my own actions and words, and namely those that happen with this very blog.
I have definitely come to use this blog as my place to release, my place to spout, and my space to deal. With that, I realize, I’ve also come to not censor certain aspects of it, namely the language syntax of what i say; each post regards something feel and wish to say, and to me I have to convey that correctly. I just forget that people…actually read this. It isn’t the silent journal under my bed or hidden in the drawer with my socks; it’s a living, public forum that though I write, others read. Which of course makes life and subjects in it very interesting.
I feel that I owe…some sort of clarity regarding certain things. Or truthishly, maybe I don’t. But, there’s things that could be said.
I think back a lot on life, and see the many moments where I was never honest; the times when I didn’t react when I should have, didn’t say something when I was right, and didn’t say anything at all for fear of being wrong, disregarded, broken down, or belittled. Holding in honesty is a terrible thing when it puts you in situations that you wouldn’t have wanted to be in in the first place. As well, I’ve been on the receiving end from people who were not honest with me. Too many things can leave you ruined by a lack of honesty, including Disneyland, friendships, and family (perhaps an odd sounding trifecta, but amazingly all were truly ruined by a lack of honesty). I’ve had too much of my life wasted by other people having a lack of honesty to a point that I’d rather be brutally honest rather than nothing at all. So, as I’ve grown up, or at least attempted to do, I try to be more honest. Sometimes, it is a flood of honesty, and it’s raw and unrefined. But still, it is honest. I fault no one for being honest with me, either, whether simple or brutal. I relish it, whatever it be. Even if you hate me or don’t agree with me, I’d rather hear it. So, thank you.
Looking at it all, I probably did have a slight over-react to a situation. I can admit that, because people over react. It’s something that happens to all human beings at some point in their lives, and no one is immune to it. But I do not- and cannot- apologize for feeling and acting how I did, because they were honest and true feelings. I cannot go back and change the way I felt, nor can i go back and change how I’ve felt over the past 23 years. I don’t regret reaction either, because it is history. For too long before now I did regret emotions, did regret having felt anything at all regarding people and actions, and regret ever had an opinion regarding someone or myself. Having come from that place in my life, I can’t go back and regret all that was or wasn’t. I can only go forward to the next day, nothing more, nothing less.
I can apologize, though, if what I say hurts someone. I didn’t say honesty was pain free, and sometimes it just really hurts. That’s the double edged sword of it all: that in being honest for yourself, you can end up causing pain to others. So, I definitely say I’m sorry for things I say or do that end up hurting someone else. I just can’t apologize for being honest.
It may not make sense to people what I’m saying, which is fine. As I said before, this whole blog for me is a vehicle for something within me that has clearly been needing to be released through this blog. So, it’s my opinion, my thoughts, my whimsy, my emotions, and my feelings, collected and sometimes not always pleasant. I stand by it, though. Regardless of what it all does once it leaves my mind and enters the interweb.
So yeah. I think that’s all I wanted to say with this post…I think. I don’t intend for it be seen as an apology post, or an attempt to back track. This post is about…it’s about exactly why I write in this damn thing. It’s about me and how I feel. And no matter how narcissistic that sounds, that is the reason I have the blog, and the reason why I write in the first place. So, yes. I think that’s all.
Much Love…and a hot warm night,
K.E.
P.S. I’m totally annoyed that Rich Harden is going to the Cubs. I’ll miss him on the A’s. Sadness, for sure.
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